Though King Solomon was the wisest man on earth, he made worst mistake regarding his wives. He disobeyed God’s command not to intermarry with foreign women of other faiths. God warned that they would turn his heart away from the true God. We read the sad epilogue to Solomon’s life:
Now King Solomon loved many foreign women. Besides Pharaoh’s daughter, he married women from Moab, Ammon, Edom, Sidon, and from among the Hittites. The Lord had clearly instructed the people of Israel, “You must not marry them, because they will turn your hearts to their gods.” Yet Solomon insisted on loving them anyway. He had 700 wives of royal birth and 300 concubines. And in fact, they did turn his heart away from the Lord.
1 Kings 11:1-3
It is interesting to note that God put it very strongly that marrying those of another faith will cause you to turn away from God. God never asks a believer to marry an unbeliever to turn her to God. Then you may ask, “What about Rahab and Ruth, foreign women who married Israelites?” Good question. From the Bible account, we know that these two women though non-Israelites, believed in the God of Israel before their marriage. Rahab believed in Israel’s god and thus hid the two spies. Ruth believed in Naomi’s god and chose to live with her. And both were blessed to be ancestors of our Lord Jesus Christ. Thus, we know that God is not against marriage between people who believe in Yahweh.
This has strong implications for us today. As believers we are not to date or marry an unbeliever as they will turn our hearts away from God. Do not be unqually yoked! I know many Christians who backslided or left the faith due to their unbelieving partner. It’s easier to pull someone down than to pull them up. When you look at the pretty girl or hot guy, remember that they are still under Satan’s grasp. They must be saved from the clutches of the Devil before you can even consider marrying them. Don’t let your emotions get the better of you. Let us look at the effects it had on Solomon’s life after all these marriages.
God raised up enemies immediately as we read from verses 14 to 40. God raised up Hadad the Edomite and Rezon (external threats) and Jeroboam (internal threat). Thus, Solomon paid for his sin when he disobeyed the Lord’s command not to marry wives who worshipped other gods. He knew it was wrong but chose to continue. Despite all the enemies that were raised, Solomon refused to repent of his evil ways till the end of his life. It eventually led the nation to experience a gigantic rift into the Northern and Southern kingdoms.
We must take heed of Solomon’s mistake of marrying someone from another faith. If you happen to be converted to Christianity after you are already married, live a life of godliness so as to influence your spouse to believe in God. All is not lost! Peter wrote to wives about this amazing truth:
In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over by observing your pure and reverent lives.
1 Peter 3:1-2
But if you are not yet married, don’t let Solomon’s mistake become yours. Choose to honour God in your relationships and He will honour you. If you are currently in a relationship with an unbeliever, tell your boyfriend or girlfriend about who God is and how important He is to you. Give them the option to truly believe in Jesus for salvation. If they choose not to believe in God, you must break up the relationship and not let it carry on towards marriage. This will prevent further pain and heartache.