I like Jim Henson’s quote. Do you need a black eye too? Maybe. But read this post first before punching yourself silly. What do you look for in a girl? Beauty? Body? Babe? I wrote about this in a previous post. God views beauty quite different from us guys. Instead of Physical Attractiveness, God is looking at Spiritual Attractiveness. It’s not about whether the girl is pretty, smart or athletic. A Christian guy should find a spiritual girl irresistibly attractive.
The mother of King Lemuel tells him how to find a good wife. After a list of great qualities (e.g. hardworking, wise, generous), King Lemuel might be impatiently waiting to interrupt, “What about beauty, mum?” But she doesn’t forget. She lowers her voice to a hush, leans in close and tells him:
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Excellent advice, don’t you think? Mum is always right. Imagine her whispering these words to you right now. Let me break it down.
1. Charm is deceptive
Charm is a quality that is used to attract or make someone interested in you. Charm always shows the best side of the person. It is meant to conceal or deceive. It alters our perception of reality. We don’t really know what the girl is really like inside. Don’t be charmed by charm. Find out more about the person in many situations.
2. Beauty is fleeting
Girls want to be beautiful. Just look at the cosmetics and clothing industry. Ladies will rush to a 50% discount sale. Why? They desire beauty. But guess what – we all grow old, no one is exempt! Our skin sags, our hair becomes white (if we have still have hair) and we become less “beautiful”. Indeed, beauty is fleeting. It lasts for a while and then it is gone. Do you want to bank your future on fleeting beauty? No way!
3. Look for a woman who fears the Lord
That’s the conclusion. Let’s move beyond charm or beauty and look for a woman who fears the Lord. She is to be praised. She is worth far more than rubies (Prov 31:10). A spiritual guy will find a spiritual girl attractive. Find one that fears the Lord. I’ve listed five criteria that I look for in an old post. Make your own list if you like.
Just a side-note: You better be a guy who fears the Lord too or she won’t be attracted to you.