Ever heard of patriarchy? Maybe not. Let’s try something more familiar. Feminism? You know that one don’t you! Feminism makes the case for equal rights for males and females in every part of society. Patriarchy maintains that males should have authority over females. Thus, both ideas are in direct conflict.
What I’m unhappy about is that males don’t speak up for patriarchy. Feminism has become an accepted societal norm due to its vocal stance. Whereas anyone who supports patriarchy is labelled as an MCP (male chauvinist pig).
We need to reclaim patriarchy especially in our church and homes because it is biblical. I’m not an MCP. I believe male and female are equal before God since they both bear His image. But I do not believe their God-given roles are interchangeable. God has made each gender very different in biological make-up and character. They complement each other.
When feminists claim that females can do any role that males can do, problems emerge. I’m not saying that females can’t lead well or teach well. They can be gifted performers. According to Scriptures, there is a reason for females to come under male leadership. It represents the relationship of Christ and the Church. Paul writes:
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
In a marriage, Paul asks the wives to obey their husbands as they submit to God. He then gives the reason for this. Watch this. There is a parallel analogy between husband/Christ and wife/Church. The wife should submit to the husband because the church submits to Christ. Do you see the deeper meaning? The marriage relationship represents the church’s relationship to Christ. One day, the church will become the wife of Jesus at the marriage supper of the Lamb.
Can you imagine the church standing up against Jesus and saying, “Why should I listen to you? Why should I be under your authority? Rather, we are equal in standing.” It is seems ludicrous for the church to dictate to Jesus what to do. But feminism insinuates that females must rise up in defiance. That is not biblical. Jesus is the head of the church and the husband is the head of the wife.
Wait a minute. Doesn’t it seem unfair for females,to get the short end of the stick? Not really. Husbands are to make it easy for wives to submit in response to their love and protection. Paul continues:
Ephesians 5:25, 33
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her…However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
This love isn’t the mushy emotional thing we recognise today. Biblical love calls for self-sacrifice even to the loss of life. Just as Jesus died for the church, husbands are to die their lives for their wives (if it comes to that). Which wife wouldn’t love and submit to a man like that? The problem is that husbands beat her into outward submission. Domination through fear is not love.
Can we reclaim the biblical standard of patriarchy? Can males rise up to the challenge of leading and loving? Can males follow the example of a true man, Jesus Christ, who loved the church and died for her? May God so help us.