Do you ever compare the number of Facebook friends you have? You may feel a tinge of jealousy or self-pity if you have lesser “friends” than others. Conversely, you may boast of having a “friends” list numbering in the thousands.
Recently, I made a trimming of Facebook friends that I knew only by name. My last count of “friends” is around 400. According to Robin Dunbar’s research, a person can have only a circle of 150 friends at one time. But does the quantity of friends really matter that much? Or should you be looking at the quality instead?
Does the Bible say anything about friendship? Yes.
King Solomon, a wise man, wrote:
Proverbs 18:24 (ESV)
A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.
Solomon asserts that the quantity of friends is not as important as the quality of friends. A man with thousands of friends can still come to ruin with no one to help him. Instead, that man is contrasted with the friend that sticks closer than a brother. What is the opposite of ruin? Success.
Do you have friends that sticks closer than a brother or sister? Someone you can call in the middle of the night and they’ll pick up the phone? Someone to listen when you rant? Someone who will drop everything to help you?
If you don’t have any, I suggest you start by being a friend. I read that the best vitamin for friendship is “B1”! Oh, I’m sure you’ll be taken advantage of by a few. But imagine how many more will respond in kind and create deep bonds of friendship. Next, scan through your friend list, searching for friends who stick closer than a brother. You may realize special friends that you’ve taken for granted all this time. Treasure them. Send them a thank you note. Give them a lunch treat. These friends are hard to come by.
Don’t go by the number of friends you have. Look for a few close friends that you can depend on.